The 5 Don'ts in a christian relationship

Over the years I've been in relationships where many mistakes have been made, due to the fact of compromise or lack of knowing how to handle a relationship the proper way. This blog may be a little too much to handle but it's the truth and the truth hurts but the truth is what sets us free and helps us not to make those same mistakes ever again.

#1 Don't-SEX

While in a relationship regardless of how "in love" you are, it shouldn't go futher to "Let's take this relationship to another level" which means to be intimate sexually. Sex in a dating relationship especially if your a christian could bring the relationship down and usually you'll end up breaking up(as God would do) because God wasn't really in the relationship even if he was in the beginning, the downfall was through compromise and the bible tells us in 1Corinthians 6:18-20 "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless,to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." Compromising against the will of God will mess up a potential long lasting relationship regardless if you didn't go all the way and just did sexual things such as oral sex,touching or heavy petting. God will shut it down no matter how much you try to take it all back or make promises of never fornicating ever again, it can't be fixed because those sinful deeds that you've done..you will be forgiven for it but it won't make the relationship work anymore. When your emotions are involved, you become insecure about everything and your lack of trust in that person will end the relationship. Bottom line, when you have sinned with the person, it doesn't feel the same verses in the beginning when the relationship was great there was life and hope of lasting long with this person.A relationship should be based on getting to know the person,their likes and dislikes, their family,most importantly who they are in Jesus Christ. And when your relationship is pure while investing your time and energy in the person, God will bless it because your doing his will in obedience.

# 2 Don't-FEAR2

Timothy 1:7 "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." Never be afraid of God while in a relationship because there may be tests, but don't allow the enemy to feed you thoughts of fear because the opposite of fear is faith. You have to have faith in a relationship and most importantly..trust. Maybe due to the fact that you've had bad relationships in the past and the many mistakes you made from those relationships and the times you got hurt..you can try again with a second chance, the right way.Trust in God that he will instruct you of what to do..how to handle a successful relationship. Never be afraid of the right one who God sends you or place in your life because it's a blessing to you and it's up to you to follow Jesus in HIS footsteps while your in that relationship. Having a strong fellowship with God, praying together,talking about God and worshipping always helps because while having that strong foundation in the word will help build a ministry the both of you will share in the future. A strong and Godly relationship that you share with eachother will lock out the enemy. Fear won't be present. It's 100% guaranteed.

# 3 Don't-BAGGAGE & OLD BONES

Don't bring old news in a relationship. It's ok for the other person to be aware of things in the past that happened once you share those secrets and personal matters with him/her but don't keep bringing it up. You've moved on from those things and you've been delivered,set free or however you want to call it but leave those old baggages behind..LET IT GO lol. Your baggage is not your child/children..it has been endorsed from God to a gift..He knows your mistake and he has forgiven you so accept the fact that you have a child or children from whatever mistake situation you were in and count it a blessing. Jesus Loves all children so do call your child/children baggage. Hopefully the person your with will accept the fact that you have a child from someone else and that he/she will claim him/her as their own. Otherwise if they don't like it..let him/her go with no mercy. Why would you be with him/her in the first place? Your suppose to know upfront if they can handle it or not. Don't wait to tell him/her you have a kid or children because thats being dishonest. Always be upfront and honest in the beginning. Don't have bones from the past meaning gifts(donate them to goodwill),jewlry(in that case give it back or pond it for a shopping spree or a new video game..LOL depending on how much it's worth anyway) old letters..burn them..if you have a fire place..there you go or shred them. My point is don't keep old bones because the more you have them around the more your constantly reminded of your past. If your moving forward in life, you have to let go of the past first. If your still holding on to something from the past, your not over it and it will effect your relationship so use wisdom and throw out them old bones.

#4 Don't-NEEDY

If the person that your with have other obligations such as work,school,church events or ministry duties you must understand that the person cannot neglect those things because if he/she is trying to make something of him/herself then thats a must and you should have obligations too otherwise what will you have to bring to the table? Obligations are moral ties and ways of life that you have to face in a person. Those obligations are what makes us human. Especially when your doing things for the Lord..it's a must. For someone to want more of your time and energy, what time will they have to build their future? So spending time with a person doesn't have to be everyday but only on days that can work for the both of you while in a relationship. "Don't be obssesed with man,be obssesed with God."-PD The more you see the person at church, or at bible study should be the standard way you get a chance to see eachother including the days your both free for lunch or a movie..etc. Even phone calls,emails or text messages should be other ways of communication anyway when days you can't see him/her. So don't be needy complaining about your mad because you can't see him/her that day or whatever..just know they are obligated to their obligations.

#5 Don't-NEGATIVE&EVIL SPIRITS

If your a christian, you should already know not to watch or listen to certain types of movies,music and etc. because what you put in your spirit is like a weapon towards your spirit and it's not good. When you are going to the movies, always watch movies that are appropriate and more comfortable for the both of you. Otherwise you don't want to be sitting in a movie theater and your man or girl is watching a hot and steaming sex scene or a naked woman or man because it's uncomfortable and your thoughts will wonder off in certain places it shouldn't be and those spirits can try to taunt or tarnish the relationship depending on your strength level in God, especially if your being pure and waiting. Don't be over his/her house after hours because you know what that means? It's bed time and use wisdom..really why would you be over their house after hours? To get freaky? UM..NO! "Well were just cuddling, nothing is going to happen" LOL you think? From experience,when your flesh gets weak your in another world and while in that world compromise is of reach. So thats a don't..use wisdom!