A Fustration I Have In This Man

Lately it's been a big challenge dealing with possibilities in regards of a guy I admire. I feel as though I constantly have to catch myself and emotions towards this guy alot more because as a friend he's a very sweet guy. I not too long ago made a list of things that I look for in a christian man..someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with and I compared him to most of the things on my list. This was before I started to have these feelings for him. I opened my notebook and saw most of the things that he is on my list and I thought to myself, wow. A few days ago while spending time with him, I got to know a little more about him as far as things he wants to do in life and it was overwelming for me because he shares the same interests as me. I like to travel and try new things as well as he does.Alot of things we have in common but the things that confuses me is how he clams up without letting anyone know who he's interested in or what things he looks for in a woman..he's a very mysterious guy when it comes to him and relationships. I haven't seen him with a woman, he has a kid,he loves kids,he's never with a woman at church. When I see him in church he only says hi to me. He doesn't stop and talk for a while. It' as if he's maybe ashamed to talk to me or he just wants to talk to people in long converstations he already knows. But how are you suppose to get to know a person of their so clammed up and not reaching out. I may be 3 years younger than him but age ain't nothin but a number..I always liked older and mature men.
God always gives me an answer for every guy I ask him about and I have yet to get that answer. I know God works by patience and I know I have to wait on an answer but I don't want to go any further without knowing because I felt this way about someone else before..I got my feelings all involved and he wasn't interested..he thought I was beautiful as he said but was talking to someone else. I mean who knew that..nobody saw him with anybody so I thought he was single so thats how I was hurt from that and now that I like someone else it kinda feels the same and I don't want to put any other feelings out there until I get my answer from God.
I'm going to still serve God,witnessing,and being a light at work..doing the things God wants me to do while I'm waiting on answers. I pray the Lords decision for me will be the BEST for me.