Have you ever sat and wondered why certain females are mean? Even your close friends and family seems to always be offensive in everything you say about them? It's not because of their day, if it's a good or bad day, it's much deeper than that. You see them go through a faze of friends or even family members that would talk to them for a while and then stop talking to them. It's as if there not stable to handle anybody to stick around or they got mad over the smallest thing and not able to work it out on the spot. Sometimes you have friends that will put up with the meanness,sticking around because they know a nice girl inside of them that will come out from time to time. They are drawn by their nice side and their willing to put up with their attitudes. Proverbs 18:24 says: "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother". If it was a good friend or family member that's close to them, they would always be nice in spite of a disagreement. They would tend to talk it through until they see eye to eye. In Leviticus 19:18 says: "Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD. This means that if their is any grudge or something that has happened in the past that their not over, God wants us to love and not get offensive or mad over everything a person says out of their mouth. If you don't love yourself enough, then the whole world in your "way of thinking" is against you when their really not. Maybe their trying to make a point on a subject,give you guidance,a joke, or a compliment. It's not to be your hater or to put you down because if that person is trying to do that, they are careless and most importantly, they wouldn't call you their friend at all. 
THERE ARE MANY SOLUTIONS OF CHANGE:
1.) Try as much as you can to get over past hurts, little or big things people have said about you because thats not only going to effect your lifestlye, but it's going to cause you to loose a lot of friends.
2.)When someone gives you a compliment, don't get offensive or cut throat about it. Just take it as it is say thank you and go on. Keep all mean things in your hidden thoughts, somehow you'll get over it and move on. But don't X them out of your life over innocent words. It's just going to make you look bad.
3.)Reach out. Don't clam up in your selfish ways but open up and start inviting people places. People may see you as a nice person but can also see that your always dependent on others to invite you out.
4.)If you don't like something a person says about another individual, speak up and tell them you disagree because holding back at that very moment of telling them how you feel will be your set back from resolving it. Otherwise you will go around being mad over that one thing a person said and will effect your friendship.
5.)Not only should you set yourself apart from those who turn on you(backstabbing)bash on you and talk about you behind your back but pray for them. The bible say is Matthew 5:44 "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you". If you call youself a christian, your suppose to act like it and don't let things people say about you, bring you down. Not the nice things, jokes, or compliments people say but cruel and mean things they say about you only. Pray for them anyway.
There are lots more of solutions for being a better person but one thing you need to remember is if your a christian, you should be an example and walk out of love. The only way God will work out the situation between you and others who harmfully say bad things about you is if you stay submissive and faithful that God will work it out. When your obedient, then God will move a whole lot quicker. For those who are your real friends, family members who really care about you, don't take them for granted. Love for you is always in their hearts.
Priscilla
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